Never a dull moment when working on a fast-moving set of projects and have loads of them currently both work-related and in the private sphere. Sometimes in these situations, you find you really like the other person or not, and vice versa. Sometimes you click and can make miracles happen, sometimes you are doomed for losing loads of energy for (almost)nothing….
I think it happens all day that things are not 100% in balance, in some situations the other person makes you feel small, stupid, and inequal or sometimes you feel stronger, more advanced, and better placed. Recently I noticed I had lost all sense of reason and was completely absorbed in my feeling.
I was in a situation someone made me feel like a complete idiot. Now to be fair, in some cases I can be a complete nitwit. But I rather have that I think this about me instead of someone else letting me know they do. Now let me ask you if you must deal with someone that makes you feel that way would you stay happy and absorb, speak out and fight for yourself, stay quiet and make your conclusions after…? I guess you will consider it depends, do you normally like the other person and is this situational, how much do you need them (are they family, employer, etc.), how much energy do you have, etc.
In this case, I sat with my feelings and analyzed and concluded it was actually me saying I was a complete moron. Though the other person had given me hints, depending on the day I might have picked it up differently. And even though the other person would think that I am a complete twit, that would be their problem. Not mine. At the end who is the dork, the one who is it or the one that stays with one?
I will determine my steps and thinking process for our next conversation, to ensure I do not feel that way anymore… otherwise I might end up with another emotional response